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yes it was devestating. It got worse for me. I had a rule. If a foster ever was damaging to our two kids (both girls) the foster had to go. I came into the garage and the girls were all in the mini van as we were getting ready to head to church and the foster was explaining and showing my 9 year old and 4 year old how to perform oral sex. In the 11 months we had her I had lost 20 lbs because she was one who constantly tried to get "physical" with men. It was non stop no's and me pushing hands away and still at the same time trying to not reject her and trying to show what is healthy affection between a man and a child. I can deal with my stress induced loss of appetite. but when it came to my kids, No I cannot allow that.

As I was deep in guilt thinking I had failed the test as she walked back into the emergency shelter, her case worker who knew exactly what I was feeling came up put her arm around me and said "Steve, when she is grown she will know that there was at least one man in her life that cared for her as a person and not as a toy for their gratification. and she will remember what you modeled for her."

Sometimes the world just makes me scream at God.

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As I read you came to a conclusion point that was running through my head during the whole reading.

God holds you accountable for actions you take voluntarily. God hold accountable fir an action the person who forces an action on you, you are still holy, they are not.

I am a bit quezzy about saying what I will now say but it is important I think to emphasize Paul's argument. Years ago my wife and I did therapitic foster care. We had a young 11 year old girl who by the age of six was not a virgin (my queezyness stems from even thinking about that rage starts to boil up in me) One day, I picked her up after school, as we were driving home she suddenly asked me "dad, if somebody did something to you and you didn't want them to "are you still a virgin?" My response was immediate. Yes, virginity is a state of mind, If someone did something to you and it was against your will, you are still a virgin. You only become not a virgin when you decide yourself to do something.

This in my humble opinion is exactly what Paul was arguing. Living a life honoring the temple of the Lord that you are means You act in all things to keep that temple holy. If others violate that temple it does not diminish or change it's holy state. The only way for that to occur is if it is you yourself violate that temple.

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